What if I were to tell you there could be a real, psychological reason behind why that guy ghosted you so brutally that one time? I recently received a message from a reader who told me something I think could be of interest to a lot of you. She was an avid reader of my weekly column " Boom, Ghosted ," and she had a feeling she knew why a lot of these guys were ghosting these girls. She felt they suffered from the same personality disorder her own ex who also ghosted her has. The disorder is called "borderline personality disorder" BPD , and she was certain it was the explanation behind lots of the installments in my column. Niloo Dardashti , a psychologist and relationship expert in New York City, to figure out if there was any truth to what this reader was talking about.
The Guy Who Ghosted You Could Have Borderline Personality Disorder
When Your Loved One Has Borderline Personality Disorder
Living with mental illness is easier than it once was, but dating with mental illness? It's so much harder than it should be — thanks to the myths and stigmas around it. When rumors that singer Ariana Grande is dating Saturday Night Live actor Pete Davidson began to circulate earlier this week, critics claimed that Davidson shouldn't be dating at all because he's been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder , which the actor promptly shut down. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, borderline personality disorder is a mental illness characterized by mood swings, a fear of abandonment, difficulty regulating emotions, impulsive or destructive behavior such as self-harm or substance use , a wavering self-image, unstable relationships, and dissociation. As the National Alliance of Mental Illness reported, borderline personality disorder affects at least 1.
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It is challenging to have a relationship with a person that has borderline personality disorder BPD , especially since one of the hallmarks of the disorder is unstable relationships. Yet, if your partner has the disorder, you probably want to do everything you can to maintain the relationship. While dating someone with borderline personality disorder may seem nearly impossible at times, there are ways you can facilitate the relationship with that person without having to go on the rollercoaster ride with them as they oscillate between extremes in behavior and mood. If you have a boyfriend or girlfriend with borderline personality disorder, dating them means that you will have to find a way to manage your behaviors so you can manage their behaviors.
BPD tends to be a frequent diagnosis for females, primarily those females who have many of the above symptoms including frequent SIB and suicidal thoughts. Sadly, many males adolescents and adults also exhibit symptoms of BPD but are often misdiagnosed as Attention Deficit Disorder or oppositional defiant disorder. The key to identifying BPD in males is to look at the constellation of symptoms and the intensity of the emotions of the individual. This article will focus on highlighting male BPD symptoms and some of the red flags to look out for. It can be very difficult to identify BPD in women much less men.